Today is Father's Day. The perfect time
to honor every Dad who shows up for
his kids each day committed to being the best father he
can be. You are
making a huge difference in your child's life -- now, and
every day of
your child's future. Thank you.
To honor the contribution of Fathers, let's consider some recent research findings that may surprise you. Did you know that:
- Children whose fathers are highly involved with them in a positive way do better in school, demonstrate better psychological well-being and lower levels of delinquency, and ultimately attain higher levels of education and economic self-sufficiency. One of the most important factors in girls’ academic achievement is their father’s belief in them. (1)
- Boys who frequently wish their fathers spent more time with them weigh, on average, 10 pounds more than boys who are satisfied with the amount of time they spend with their dads. (2)
- Kids who feel they have good relationships with their fathers are less likely to use drugs. (3)
- Kids who feel they don’t have their father’s respect are more prone to anxiety. (4)
- An active and nurturing style of fathering is associated with better verbal skills, intellectual functioning, and academic achievement among adolescents. (5)
- When fathers are involved in their children's education, the kids are more likely to get As, enjoy school, and participate in extracurricular activities. (6)
- Toddlers with involved fathers go on to start school with higher levels of academic readiness. They are more patient and can handle the stresses and frustrations associated with schooling more readily than children with less involved fathers. (7)
- Kids who have problematic relationships with their mothers grow up to be worse parents -- UNLESS they have good relationships with their dads, in which case they can become very good parents. (And of course anyone who was parented poorly can become a great parent if they're willing to do the emotional work). (8)
- Children whose father has left them (and who don't have a strong male role model to replace him) are more likely to drop out of school, abuse drugs and alcohol, and wind up in prison. (9)
- Whether a girl has early and/or unprotected sex is greatly influenced by whether her father was loving and supportive to her. Adolescent girls living in homes without their fathers are 3 times more likely to engage in sexual relations by the time they turn 15, and 5 times more likely to become a teen mother. (10)
- Fathers who take a week or more off to spend with their newborn are closer to their child at every stage of the child's life, right up into young adulthood. (11)
- Dads often worry that they don't know how to care for a newborn. But research shows that men have a hormonal response to becoming fathers, which includes a natural protectiveness toward the baby. So Paternal Instinct is as real as Maternal Instinct. (12)
- The more time dads spend holding their new babies, the more their paternal instinct is activated, and the more comfortable they feel comforting and caring for their newborns. This is usually a transformative experience for Dad, a tremendous relief to mom, and a vital relationship for the baby. (13)
- Teenagers watch an average of 21 hours of television per week. They spend only 35 minutes per week talking with their fathers. (14)
- 34% of kids in the USA today live without their fathers. (15)
If you're a Dad, please accept my deepest gratitude. Whatever else you may accomplish in your life, in my opinion it pales compared to your role as a father.
Rosenberg, Jeffrey. & Wilcox, W. Bradford. (2006 ) The Importance of Fathers in the Healthy Development of Children, Office on Child Abuse and Neglect, U.S. Children's Bureau.
2. Kindlon, Dan (2003) Too Much of A Good Thing: Raising Children of Character in an Indulgent Age
3. Horn, W., & Sylvester, T. (2002); U. S. Department of Health and Human Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA). (1996). The relationship between family structure and adolescent substance abuse. Rockville, MD: National Clearinghouse for Alcohol and Drug Information; Harper, C., & McLanahan, S. S. (1998).
Bronte-Tinkew, Jacinta, Kristin A. Moore, Randolph C. Capps, and Jonathan Zaff. (2004) “The influence of father involvement on youth risk behaviors among adolescents: A comparison of native-born and immigrant families.” Article in Press. Social Science Research.
4. Bögels, Susan & Phares, Vicky. (2007) Fathers' role in the etiology, prevention and treatment of child anxiety. Clinical Psychology Review 28 (2008) 539–558.
Gable, S., Crnic, K., & Belsky, J. (1994). Coparenting within the family system: Influences on children's development. Family Relations, 43(4), 380-386
5. Goldstine, H. S. (1982). Fathers' absence and cognitive development of 12-17 year olds. Psychological Reports, 51, 843-848; Nord, C., & West, J. (2001). Fathers' and mothers' involvement in their children's schools by family type and resident status [On-line]. Available: http://nces.ed.gov/pubsearch/pubsinfo.asp?pubid=2001032.
7. Campbell & von Stauffenberg, 2008
8. Dissertation by Dr. Laura Markham based on research done at the Barnard Toddlers Center, Columbia University.
9. Harper, Cynthia C. and Sara S. McLanahan. “Father Absence and Youth Incarceration.” Journal of Research on Adolescence 14 (September 2004): 369-397.
Bush, Connee, Ronald L. Mullis, and Ann K. Mullis. “Differences in Empathy Between Offender and Nonoffender Youth.” Journal of Youth and Adolescence 29 (August 2000): 467-478.
10. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. National Center for Health Statistics. National Health Interview Survey. Hyattsville, MD 1988.
Billy, John O. G., Karin L. Brewster and William R. Grady. "Contextual Effects on the Sexual Behavior of Adolescent Women." Journal of Marriage and Family 56 (1994): 381-404.
Bruce J. Ellis et al., "Does Father Absence Place Daughters at Special Risk for Early Sexual Activity and Teenage Pregnancy?" Child Development 74: 801-821,
12. Study by Ruth Feldman at Bar Ilan University: http://www.livescience.com/10784-dads-hormone-boost-caring-baby.html