FAQ: Personal Consultations with
Dr. Laura Markham
Wondering if a personal consultation about your child would be useful? Want a chance to work directly with Dr. Laura to transform your relationship with your child?
On this page you'll find answers to the questions most commonly asked about coaching with Dr. Laura.
If your question isn't listed, please don't hesitate to ask: DrLauraMarkham at AhaParenting.com.
PLEASE NOTE: Dr. Laura is speaking a lot these days because her book is newly published, so please be aware that you may need to wait a couple of weeks for your appointment.
What should I be looking for in a parenting coach?
Experience, training, wisdom, and an approach that feels like a good fit for your family. Look for a Ph.D. in psychology, or an MSW. Read the expert's book or ask for some articles, so you can see if you like their approach. Make sure the coach has experience helping parents address the kinds of problems you want to solve, and that he or she gives detailed, hands-on, step by step advice as well as general theories.
Does it make sense to work with someone long distance?
When you're looking for expert advice, it's important to find someone you respect, whose approach is a good fit with your own. That person might not always be located close by. The wonderful thing about the internet is that you can find the perfect adviser for you, even when they're far away. It also gives you the opportunity to fully evaluate the fit by reading their articles online. And it gives you access to someone of international stature like Dr. Laura Markham.
What's different about Dr. Laura Markham?
There are a lot of parenting experts out there. If you have an easy kid, most of their advice will work. Your child will grow up ok. Maybe not optimally, but well-behaved enough and reasonably well-adjusted. But if you're looking for some extra support in your parenting, you probably don't have an easy kid. About a third of all children are considered challenging for one reason or another. And if you are a parent who has a challenging child, then connection is your magic weapon. Indeed, it's the only tool that both makes parenting easier and helps your child develop optimally. Connection is Dr. Laura Markham's specialty.
Unlike most parenting experts, Dr. Laura trained as a clinical psychologist. The foundation of her work is her Ph.D. from Columbia University, so her opinions are based on scientific research and an extensive knowledge of child development. She understands the theories -- and translates them into daily-life advice for parents on how they can raise terrific kids.
Best of all, because she's a mother, Dr. Laura gets right into the nuts and bolts practicalities that parents-in-the-trenches need.
But that's not all that's great about Dr. Laura. Past clients rave, using words like warm, supportive, knowledgeable, helpful, insightful, reassuring, comforting, wise, inspiring. You can get a sense of her personality by reading her advice to readers in the Ask the Doctor section of this website, or in her daily posts.
Is telephone coaching a substitute for therapy?
No. This is not therapy, but rather support for parents to strengthen their relationship with their child and learn new parenting skills. If you or your child have issues that require deep exploration or ongoing support, you'll want to work with a therapist. Dr. Markham is trained as a clinical psychologist--her Ph.D. is from Columbia University--but she does not maintain a license to practice therapy because she confines herself to coaching.
What can I expect from coaching with Dr. Laura Markham?
2. A plan for change, including specific next steps you can take on your own.
3. A more rewarding relationship with your child.
4. A happier, better-behaved child. (Clear evidence that you’re doing a better job!)
5. A happier family.
Is coaching time-consuming?
That's up to you. You can speak with Dr. Laura once about a specific issue, or weekly for a few months to transform your life. But any investment of time that you make will be well worth it. Janet Rose Wojtalik, Ed.D. says "It always amazes me how some parents will spend hours online
researching where to find the cheapest shoe sales, but some parents
won't take an hour every now and then to improve their skills as a
Isn't coaching expensive?
Dr. Laura does limited long-distance consulting, and purposely keeps rates in keeping with standard rates for psychologists throughout the US: $130 for one hour. If you know you will want more than one session, you can sign up for more than one session at once and get a 15% discount -- the fee drops to $110.
You can always email Dr. Laura in advance of the coaching session with background info to save time during the call, and between sessions for additional support. There is never a charge for reading your emails, regardless of how lengthy, or for quick answers.
What if I'm disappointed in the consultation?
You'll be the first! Seriously, Dr. Laura offers a personal guarantee: If you aren't completely thrilled with what you get out of your coaching session, your payment will be cheerfully refunded, no questions asked, within a week of receiving your email to Dr. Laura Markham (DrLauraMarkham@AhaParenting.com) asking for a refund.
Do I have to pay for a long distance call?
Dr. Laura uses Facetime or Skype whenever the client prefers. Facetime and Skype offer free internet long distance calling all over the world. Using either Facetime or Skype is easy; Facetime now comes with Mac computers, or you can just go to Skype.com and download their free software. When it's time for your consultation, open Facetime or Skype on your computer, put Dr. Laura Markham in your contact list and click on it. She will accept your call. No telephone, no long distance charges. If you have a webcam, you can choose whether to see each other as you converse. Even for technophobes, both Facetime and Skype are delightfully easy.
What if I don't feel comfortable using Facetime or Skype?
No problem. Email Dr. Laura and she'll send you a call-in number for a conference call line. In that case, there will be a long distance charge, just as if you called anyone out of state. But there's an upside, too: the call can be recorded so that you can download it to listen to it again or play it for your spouse. (Facetime and Skype calls aren't recorded.)
What if I'm out of the US? No worries. Dr. Laura can supply you with a call-in number that is "in country" for you so won't have to make an international call.
How do I make an appointment?
Click below for the form to register. Either Dr. Laura or her assistant will email you within a few days. Appointments will generally be arranged within two weeks. If you do not hear back within three days to make an appointment, please email right away: DrLauraMarkham@AhaParenting.com.
What if we can't find a time to meet soon, and I've already paid?I
In the rare case where this might happen -- a vacation, for instance -- your payment would be immediately refunded.
How do I pay?
Just click below for the registration form, and pay the appropriate amount for the amount of time you'd like to reserve.
"I'm so glad I found you...You're awesome." -- Kelly
"Thank you so much, I really needed this today! I really appreciate you giving me all those suggestions and your insight. I see what I have been doing wrong and where I can make big improvements." -- Shell
"Your words have inspired me to put my best effort into repairing my relationship with my daughter. You have given me some wonderful direction and I am going to share it with my husband.." -- Sharon
"This was so helpful and reassuring.... I am looking forward to implementing these tips .. You have given me some great insight in how to be with my son." -- Jessi
"Thank for answering all of my discipline related questions. Thank you so much for doing what you do. I find your website and Parents Toolkit an informative and valuable resource. I'm sure I will be accessing your research and suggestions during these wonderful, but sometimes challenging toddler & preschool years. I enjoy, so much, watching my daughter grow into this smart, creative, and active little person and I want to positively foster her development as much as possible." -- Karen
"I really appreciated your thoughtful suggestions and I plan to put them into practice!" -- Wendy
"Yours is the best advice I’ve found so far on what to do when you, the parent, are angry. Most say something like, “Deal positively with your anger!” which makes me say, “Like HOW?”
-- Milkbreath & Me
"Folks, she's brilliant. It's wonderful to have parenting experts who don't see the child as the enemy in a locked combat, for one thing. I recommend it."-- Stephanie, Recollected Life
"I love your approach. It's very comforting!"
"I want to thank you for the information you shared... My four year old daughter’s frequent tantrums had me confused on what to try next.. I am looking forward to applying some of the concepts I learned. Thank you!" -- Christine
Dear Dr. Laura,
I honestly feel like that is the best advice I have ever received. I am already seeing things differently and I promise you that I will follow every step and improve this situation.Things are coming around for our family and getting better slowly but surely. I can sense my stress level lifting a bit and I want to capitalize on that. You are very talented at what you do. Thank you very much for taking the time to care! I hope it encourages you to know that what you told me to do (everything from starting school - which I am registering for right now - to taking time to find fun ways to clean up - and even to stop taking out my frustrations on a helpless two year old (who is just that... a two year old) I will do it. Thank you so much again and God bless you for your selfless work. Sincerely, Jessica