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“It’s time to start living the life you’ve imagined.”
-- Henry James

You know all those interactions you wish you could do over?  You can't change history, but you CAN rewrite the script and create an alternative version in your mind.  Why bother?  First, the feelings you take away will be positive, not toxic.  Second, you'll be modeling for yourself the way you want to act in the future.  Your mind files that away as a blueprint and you have the option of acting more positively next time.  Think of it as Emotional Muscle-Memory.

Tonight before sleep, find one thing that you did really well with your kids, that you're proud of.  Soak in that fabulous feeling.  Then, while you feel so good, find one thing you did with your child or family that you want to do differently next time. Don't beat yourself up, stay positive. Use your pause button as you play it in your mind like a newsreel.  See yourself handling the situation beautifully next time.

This takes a little discipline at the end of the day, but it can change your life.  It's such a powerful tool that you may find yourself using it every night.