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"Last
night I had one of those difficult nights where ...my anger and
exhaustion were just as raw as my 3 year old's... I was sifting through
my mind...something that I could say or do to stop the course of events
or change the negative feeling ...finally it came to me from one of
your daily inspirations ……that I could just give him an out and promise
to do better and above all I wanted him to know I loved him.... I said,
“It has been such a tough day and I think you need a hug” I
picked him up and he clung to me like a monkey in that dark room and
squeezed his body close to me so much that it took my breath away and
all my anger just melted. Even though I had raised my voice and we both
had said hurtful things to each other ---in the end it is just about
trust and love. I said “I’m so sorry I yelled at you and you
have been upset. It has been a tough night for you and for mommy and it
is OK ….sometimes all of us can have good days and tough days and today
was a tough day wasn’t it? Tomorrow we will have a better
day, OK?” He nodded against me and I told him that I loved him and we
continued onto our evening song and connectedness rituals that I love,
like we had never had such a disastrous evening." -- Kristina
We've all had those moments with our child. When our own feelings are so raw, our frustration so intense, our cup so empty, we stop caring for the moment about what our child needs and just lash out.
Later, we're often overcome with remorse. But in that moment, with the tidal wave of our emotions washing over us, what can we possibly do to save the situation?
The
answer is that if we can feel the slightest glimmer of desire to turn
things around, we can grab it. We don't even have to know how. We can
just choose love. We can always find a way to reach out to our child
and reconnect. We can always find a way to heal things, even when we're
on a cycle of negativity that's gone too far.
When things have gone too far, just stop.
1.Breathe.
2. Stop berating yourself for letting things get out of control. Hug your imperfect self.
3. Reach out for your child.
In the end, it is always about love.

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