“Sometimes life is so hard. I just wish I could be in a better mood,
so I could be nicer to my kids!" - Karen
"We're not grateful because we're happy. We're happy because we're grateful.” - Brother David Stendl-Rast
Life can be hard. And being a parent is one of the hardest things we do. No wonder we're in a bad mood sometimes. READ POST
especially important during the holidays to remember that aiming for a
PERFECT holiday is actually a bad goal. Not only is perfection
impossible and striving for it adds stress, but honestly, the holidays
families remember most fondly are those when the dog ate the cake, or
everybody got the flu on Thanksgiving. Play it loose, have a sense of
humor..." -- Meg Cox
If you live in the US, you're already bracing yourself for Thanksgiving Thursday. (If you don't, I hope this post will start you thinking about your December holiday.)
Are you trying to figure out how to get everything done this week? Or how to go beyond mere gluttony to add some meaning and gratitude in between courses? I'm the first to trumpet the benefit to our kids -- and ourselves -- of rituals, and of learning the habit of gratitude. And you'll find plenty of ideas on the Aha! Parenting website to add meaning and Aha! moments to your family's Thanksgiving.
But my plea to you this week is to remember that perfection is not attainable, and striving for that magazine-spread holiday will only stress you out and make you yell at your kids. Luckily, perfection isn't necessary for you and your family to have a perfectly wonderful Thanksgiving. READ POST
“Expressing gratitude works. The moment we start
taking things for granted—whether it be our husbands or our health—those
things stop making us happy." -- Sonja Lyubomirsky, Happiness
Researchers have found a concrete way to raise your happiness set point. Every day -- as you fall asleep at night is a good time -- think of three positive things that happened that day. People who do this get happier almost immediately, and stay happier for as long as they continue this practice. READ POST
"When we experience a sense of gratitude, we give ourselves a dose of mental sunshine. Suddenly the world seems brighter, and we have more options. And the greatest thing is that as we experience the mental sunshine of gratitude, we begin to glow with sunshine ourselves. Suddenly not only is the world brighter, but we are too. Soon we notice that our lives are full of people who want to be around us because we exude peacefulness, happiness, and joy." -- M.J. Ryan READ POST
"You are a great wizard. You can use your powers to practice white magic on yourself instead of the other kind. The most basic way to do that is to concentrate on naming, savoring, and feeling gratitude for the blessings you do have -- your love for your kid, the pleasures of eating the food you like, the sight of the sky at dusk, the entertaining drama of your unique fate. Don't ignore the bad stuff, but make a point of celebrating the beautiful stuff with all the exuberant devotion you can muster."-- Rob Brezsny
Every wisdom tradition has a practice of gratitude. We offer thanks not only for some presumed spiritual or ethical benefit, but because it works.
The heartfelt expression of gratitude lifts us out of the mind’s usual restless feeling of “not enough” into the joy of sufficiency. We open ourselves to take in the blessings that surround us.
Let's do an experiment, right now. Put your hand on your heart. Name 5 things for which you're grateful. Feel that gratitude. Immerse yourself in it.
Actually do this, right now. It takes one minute. At least 5 things.
What do you notice after doing this practice?
Now, name 5 things about your child for which you're grateful.
See how this could turn your whole life around?
As Meister Eckhart said, "If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough."READ POST
"Gratitude is noticing the extraordinary in the ordinary. And then taking the nanosecond to feel it." -- Karen Krakower Kaplan
Happy Tuesday! Want to rock your life? Do these 3 simple things every day this week:
1. Do something from your Joy list to nurture yourself, so your cup is full enough to overflow with joy toward your child. Don't have a list of the things you can do to help you feel joyful? Make one, right now! Put it up and keep adding to it every day.
2. Spend fifteen minutes in private, unstructured, loving interaction with each child, preferably including lots of listening and snuggling. Can't get your kid to engage? Try physical games, the kind you would play with a baby -- kiss each toe, give a massage. Resist the urge to tickle, teach or engage with any kind of technology. Just be -- and let love rush in.
3. Find something to be grateful for every minute. Gratitude transforms our mood, attitude, actions, how we perceive our world. If all you do is offer appreciation all day long -- to your child, your spouse, yourself, Life -- you'll find your whole day transformed.
May your week be filled with miracles, large and small. READ POST