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"Let there be times when you don't
tell someone everything you know about her problem, even if your
understanding of it is better than hers." - Guy Finley
"Self Esteem comes from feeling capable in the world, as well as from being loved unconditionally." - Ty and Linda Hatfield
Ever
notice how kids don't really want to hear your solutions to their
problems? Teenagers, particularly, often react with downright hostility
when we give them our good advice. That's because they need to see
themselves as capable. Every time we tell our child how to handle
something, we're implying that he isn't competent enough to figure it
out for himself. We're undermining his confidence, which erodes his
self-esteem. READ POST
"Odd as it may seem, children who hit
are children who are afraid. The fears that cause trouble for a child
who hits usually have their roots in some frightening experience earlier
in her life, even though she may not seem frightened at all. To manage
her fear, the frightened child develops aggressive behavior that flares
any time she feels tense. Instead of crying or saying she feels scared
when her fears are triggered, she tightens up, can’t ask for help, and
lashes out." -- Patty Wipfler
It's not so easy to feel love in the face of aggression. We
may know intellectually that our child is lashing out because she's
overwhelmed or scared, but we still move into "fight or flight" because
we feel like it's an emergency. READ POST



