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"Children need love, especially when they do not deserve it."-- Harold Hulbert READ POST
"Dr. Laura, I appreciate all the emails about how to stay calm and inspired. I find they really help.But what about those times when my kid does something really awful -- and deserves what's coming to him?! Won't he misinterpret it if I stay calm then? How do I teach him a lesson?" – Claudine READ POST
"If our kids have become bothersome speed bumps,
we need to wake up and pull off the road before we really hurt
somebody." -- Scott Cooper
Some parents are trying so hard to be patient they let things get out
of hand, and then snap. The key is to set limits BEFORE you get angry.
Often when we lose it with our children, it’s because we haven’t set a
limit, and something is grating on us. The minute you start getting
angry, it’s a signal to do something. No, not yell. It’s time to
intervene in a positive way to prevent more of whatever behavior is
irritating you. READ POST
"Some parents respond to defiant behavior by trying to force kids to behave or 'take the wind out of their sails.' Rudolf Dreikurs suggests that instead, 'we take our sails out of their wind.' We have nothing to lose by withdrawing from this conflict because even if we succeed in overpowering the child, the child will ultimately feel hurt As a result, he will hurt us back ... by doing poorly in school, forgetting chores, or with other indirect misbehaviors." -- Kathryn J. Kvols READ POST
“I don't want to yell at my children. But they don't listen, and finally I just get mad. And you’re right, then my child looks like the enemy. I yell threats and things I'm sorry for later. I know I should do what you suggest and walk away, take five to calm down. BUT I CAN’T. I’m just too mad, so I lose it, and I have a tantrum of my own. But I'm afraid of what I'm modeling.” READ POST
"Experience is that marvelous thing that enables you
to recognize a mistake when you make it again."
-- F. P. Jones READ POST
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