3 year old says “I hate you!”
How would you respond positively when your 3.5 year old tells you they hate you or that you are a bad person? It usually comes from them not getting
his way. I have already expressed to him that his words hurt my feelings and that they make me feel sad. He gets that but continues to say it if
he doesn't get what he wants.
I would empathize with the feeling. Not with what he is expressing, but with the reason for it. So, "You're saying that you hate me....Ouch!....You must be pretty mad at me to say something like that....I guess you are very disappointed that you didn't get what you wanted...You were really hoping for that, I know."