8 Year Old Hit His Teacher, Suspended

Dr. Laura,

My 8 yr old got suspended from school for hitting the teacher in her head. What can I say and do to help this? I certainly don't want him to feel hes getting away with it or that being suspended from school you get to stay home and have fun. Any advice would be very much appreciated.

Thank You,
Amanda

Amanda,

Start by asking him why he did it.

Listen.

Problem solve -- what else could he have done? What would have happened then?

Ask him what he thinks resulted from this way of handling the problem. (Teacher mad at him? Suspension?)

Ask him how he can repair those things. (Perhaps a letter of apology to the teacher and the principal? Is there something he could do to help gain your trust again?)

Be sure that he spends the time out of school working -- writing a letter of apology to the teacher, studying for her class (and all his classes) so that he goes back to school all caught up with his work and poised to earn good grades.

Finally, take responsibility as his mom that something is really wrong here if he is resorting to this to solve problems, and you make it your highest priority in life to get your son's life back on track.

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