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I'm not a nutritionist, I'm a psychologist, but I have found that psychology plays a part in helping children learn to eat healthy.  The reason kids resist new foods is that new foods could be dangerous. In other words, kids who just ate anything new -- who were adventurous eaters -- often did not live to pass on their genes. 

Most toddlers and many preschoolers do not like their food to "touch" -- in other words, to be mixed up.  Some do, but most don't.  I think that is part of the self-protective thing that insures they don't inadvertently eat something poisonous.  So most kids do like it better when the veggies are separated from the pasta, for instance, and will "pick" them out.

Research has shown that the most important factor in getting kids to eat new foods is exposing them to the food. In other words, even if they won't try asparagus the first three times it is on their plate, they might try it the fourth time.  Eventually, they are almost certain to try it. If you consistently serve lots of vegies, your children will eat vegies.  And I think all children love fruit, if they are served it all the time, as long as they don't get a lot of sweets. Kids eat what gets served at their house.

If a child really does not like a specific vegetable that is served that night, then why not have a rule that they can have a different one that night? My own personal rule was always that they could have raw carrots out of the bag in place of a veggie they didn't like.  Very nutritious and most kids like carrots. (With a two year old, you would need to be sure he eats them safely.)  The other easy option is frozen, uncooked peas.  Many kids love the cold texture.  So you can easily pour some peas on their plate if they don't want their brussel sprouts. Remember that since kids are small, they don't need very much of any one food to equal a serving.

How to get the five fruits and vegies?  If you always serve at least one vegie and one salad at dinner, and you always have fruit for dessert (or before dessert if you have a sweet dessert for a special occasion), then kids will always get at least two vegies and a fruit at dinner. You can always serve fruit with breakfast, and fruit with lunch.

For another vegie, why not make vegies a snack during the day?  Kids are more likely to eat them then, when they aren't by the pasta or whatever the child prefers on the dinner plate.  Baked sweet potatoes are very nutritious and make a great snack with butter and salt. They also make a nutritious pie that can be sweetened with birch sugar (xylitol) so it is much healthier than regular sugar.  This may sound like it wouldn't be kid-friendly, but when my daughter got to be school-age, she would always snack on the healthy things I put in front of her while she was working.  So I would give her little dishes of greens to snack on, and now that she's a teen she eats sprouts and raw (mild) greens as snacks.

All humans have likes and dislikes but some people are more picky as eaters than others.  However, most kids will branch out and develop a broader range of foods they like by the time they are teenagers.

I would NEVER force a child to eat a food.  I think it's fine to ask them to try one taste, but if they don't want more, or even if they spit it out, that's their prerogative.  In other words, I would never insist a child eat something she feels like spitting out.  In my personal (from childhood!) experience, that almost guarantees she will always hate that food. 

Also, research shows you shouldn't "reward" kids for eating veggies, for instance by serving them dessert.  That also guarantees they will conclude that veggies are not tasty.

You might want to read these advice letters about picky eaters:

Getting a Two Year Old to Eat Healthy Food

Toddler has Become a Picky Eater

I would highly recommend Ellyn Satter's "Child of Mine, Feeding with Love and Good Sense".

Mostly, I should reassure you that most kids end up eating diets much like what they grew up eating. So enjoy your own healthy diet, and your children will eventually follow in your footsteps!

Dr. Laura