"By taking the time to stop and appreciate who you are and what you've achieved - and perhaps learned through a few mistakes, stumbles and losses - you actually can enhance everything about you. Self-acknowledgment and appreciation are what give you the insights and awareness to move forward... - Jack Canfield
What are your biggest strengths as a parent? Don’t worry about humility; just be honest. What would an impartial observer admire if she could watch your
best moments with your child or children?
let's build on those strengths.
1. Make a list, in writing, of what you're most proud of about yourself as a parent. Include all those things no one else ever even
notices. And the things that might look simple from the outside, but take extra effort for you. And yes, include those moments when you don't completely
pull it off, but you're able to notice things going downhill in the middle of an interaction and turn things around. Those moments are your growing
edge, where transformation happens. Keep adding to your list until you have at least ten things that you're proud of about yourself as a parent. (Better
yet, 20 or 30!)
2. Read through your list and give yourself appreciation for everything on it. You may find your inner critic offering a counterpoint
of all the things you don't do as well. There will always be those things if you're human, because there's no way for humans to be perfect. Join the
club. For right now, just let those things you're still working on go. Today, focus on all the things you do right as a parent. Give yourself total
appreciation and credit for all that hard work. Savor that feeling.
Appreciating yourself lifts your mood and helps you feel more emotionally generous. But let's take this a step further. What can this list teach you to
help you be your best self more often?
3. Consider what helps you be at your best as a parent. I know, you're a better parent when your child behaves -- but you can
count on children exhibiting childish behavior. What helps you be your personal best as a parent, even when your child isn't at his or her best? What
support would help you to be that parent more often? How can you give yourself that support every single day, until it becomes a habit?
4. Give yourself an internal hug or a high five every time you notice yourself acting toward your child in a way that makes you feel good
about yourself. Notice how that helps you be your best self more often.
The times you don't feel so good about? Use them as motivation to do better. Notice what might help you and see if there's a way to give that to yourself.
Resist the urge to beat up on yourself. Let those tough moments go, and move on to better interactions.
Not only will appreciating yourself make you happier with the way you parent, you'll find you enjoy parenting more. See how long it takes your child to
comment on the difference.
"Appreciation and self-love are the most important tools that you could ever nurture. Appreciation of others, and appreciation of yourself, is the closest vibrational match to your Source Energy...." -- Abraham-Hicks