Chapter 9 of Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings goes into detail about how to prepare your child for the separation during an upcoming birth. On pages 232-236, I mention the idea of creating a transition book for your child. Stories that reflect their experience help children make sense of their world. Books explain what to expect, so kids feel less frightened and more able to cope. A book also gives your child the "happy ending" that is vitally important in how we remember and process events. That's why making a personalized book that includes a happy ending is useful whenever your child is faced with a big transition.
Since the separation from you when the baby is born can set the tone for the sibling's arrival, you might want to create a book that focuses just on the pregnancy and separation. To make it easier for you to create your own personalized book, here is a template for you to use to get started. Just click the link below to download this template as a Word document. Then, personalize the the story, words and the picture choices as much as you would like to fit your needs.
Later, once you are sleeping through the night again, you might want to make another book about the sibling relationship: Siblings Are Forever.
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