About Aha! Parenting

Create a Peaceful Home -- and Happy, Responsible, Considerate Kids!

  • Are you moving away from "old school" parenting, and want support to do things differently?

  • Do you want to help your child WANT to behave, rather than scaring him into compliance or breaking his will?

  • Would you like to connect more with your child and build a close, affectionate relationship instead of struggling to control?

  • Do you want to raise kids who grow up into happy, considerate, responsible, competent people, and who make the world a better place just by being themselves?

  • Would you like to learn about "gentle guidance" and "positive discipline"?

  • Do you consider yourself to be using some or all of the practices of “attachment” or “connection” parenting, and want an experienced resource to consult about challenges that emerge with each stage?

  • Do you want to save yourself a lot of grief during the teenage years?

  • Do you want to know how to raise a 21st century kid using eternal values?

  • Do you want to feel more inspired and confident as a parent?

You've come to the right place!

Parenting is tough, but it isn’t complicated.  From tantrums to texting, the secret of happy parenting is a close relationship with your child.  Thousands of research studies over the past four decades show us exactly what kids need to turn out great: 

Love (nurturing, respect, empathy, cherishing)
High -- but age-appropriate --  expectations.

Dr. Laura Markham trained as a Clinical Psychologist at Columbia University, but she's also a mom, so she understands kids -- and parents!.  She sounds two clear themes:

When we feel good, we're better parents.  Quite simply, we can only give what we have inside. That's why her daily parenting inspiration emails are about how to take better care of ourselves and manage our own emotions.

Parenting effectively always depends on our connection to our kids. Without that connection, we have little influence ("My kids won't listen!") and, frankly, parenting becomes an exhausting, thankless task.

Deepening our connection with our kids and keeping it strong as they grow is the work of parenting.  Of course kids need guidance, but that only sticks if the connection is there to support our teaching. 

As our infants grow into toddlers and do less nuzzling and more NO-ing, how do we maintain a strong connection while setting the necessary limits?  Can we keep the relationship close as our child starts daycare or preschool and we teach her to problem-solve and navigate her own path?  As our kids move into the school years and out into the world, how do we stay connected so we can enforce high expectations?  And as our kids evolve into teenagers -- when we get fired as the boss -- how can we make sure we have the necessary trust and intimacy with them so that we get rehired as consultants?

Welcome to the work of parenting.  Of course, that's where the rewards are, too.

The benefits?

1.  Your kids will be happier, more cooperative , and well-adjusted -- a joy to parent, most of the time.

2. You'll be happier and more relaxed.

3.  Your family life will be more meaningful and fun.

4. You'll raise ethical kids who are happy, considerate, self-disciplined, responsible, and likable -- without ever having to punish!

5. You'll give your kids a real childhood while still preparing them for 21st century life.

6. You and your kids will have a close, loving relationship for the rest of your life.

How?   Win-Win Parenting:  Set limits with empathy and keep communicating so you stay connected.  This website shows you, step by step, how to take Your Family Life from Good to Great

Click here for more about Dr. Laura Markham.

Are you looking for that Aha! Moment to transform your child’s behavior, or maybe your own?

Whether you're wondering how to handle a specific challenge, just figuring out your child-raising approach, or ready to tear your hair out, you’ve come to the right place.

What is Aha! Parenting? You know what an Aha! Moment is, right? With our child, it’s that lightning flash of insight, when suddenly we see things from another perspective, and everything has the potential to be different.

"I admire and appreciate the caring life support you offer parents." -- Sura Hart Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids

"Some time ago, I came across your website and recognized your work as full of wisdom, caring and common sense." --Anne Pierce, Ships Without a Shore

Aha! Parenting: Making the world a better place….one family at a time.