About Aha! Parenting

Aha! Parenting helps you create a more peaceful home -- and happy, responsible, considerate kids!

Are you looking for that Aha! Moment to transform your child’s behavior, or maybe your own?

Whether you’re wondering how to handle a specific challenge, just figuring out your child-raising approach, or ready to tear your hair out, you’ve come to the right place.

What is Aha! Parenting?

You know what an Aha! Moment is, right?

With our child, it’s that lightning flash of insight, when suddenly we see things from another perspective, and everything has the potential to be different. This website has Aha! moments for parents of every age child, from pregnancy right through the teen years.

  • Are you moving away from "old school" parenting toward "gentle guidance" and "positive discipline"?
  • Are you wishing you could help your child WANT to behave, rather than scaring him into compliance or breaking his will?
  • Would you like to connect more with your child to build a close, affectionate relationship instead of struggling for control?
  • Do you want to raise kids who grow up into happy, considerate, responsible, competent people?
  • Do you consider yourself to be using some or all of the practices of “attachment” parenting, and want an experienced resource to consult about challenges that emerge with each stage?
  • Do you want to know how to raise a 21st century kid using eternal values?
  • Do you want to feel more inspired and confident as a parent?

You've come to the right place!

Dr. Laura Markham creates Aha! moments for parents of kids from babies through teens. She trained as a Clinical Psychologist at Columbia University, but she's also a mom, so she understands kids -- and parents!

About Dr. Laura

Dr. Laura Markham trained as a Clinical Psychologist, earning her PhD from Columbia University.  But she's also a mom, so she translates proven science into the practical solutions you need for the family life you want.

Dr. Laura is the author of the books Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting and Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings:How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life. 

The founding editor of AhaParenting.com, Dr. Laura also serves as a parenting expert for Mothering.com, Psychology Today, The Natural Parent Magazine, Pregnancy.org, Girlie Girl Army, SheKnows.com, and several other websites.  She makes frequent TV and radio appearances and has been interviewed for hundreds of articles by publications as diverse as The Wall Street Journal, Real Simple, Newsday, Men's Health, Redbook and Parents Magazine.

Dr. Laura's relationship-based parenting model has helped thousands of families across the U.S. and Canada find compassionate, common-sense solutions to everything from separation anxiety and sleep problems to sass talk and cell phones. She lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her husband and two terrific kids -- now 18 and 22!

Dr. Laura sounds three clear themes:


Regulating Our Emotions as Parents

Our most important responsibility as parents is regulating our own emotions, which is essential for our children to learn to manage themselves. That’s why Dr. Laura’s free coaching emails often focus on how to take better care of ourselves.


Connecting with Your Child

From tantrums to texting, the secret of happy parenting is a close relationship with your child. Without that connection, we have little influence (”My kids won’t listen!”) and parenting becomes exhausting.


Coach Instead of Controlling

Coach, instead of trying to control, so your child WANTS to cooperate with you. Sure, you need to set limits--but if you set them with empathy and respect, you’ll find your child is much more likely to comply.

What Are The Benefits?

  • Your kids will be happier, more cooperative , and well-adjusted -- a joy to parent, most of the time.
  • You'll be happier and more relaxed.
  • Your family life will be more meaningful and fun.
  • You'll raise ethical kids who are happy, considerate, self-disciplined, responsible, and likable -- without ever having to punish!
  • You'll give your kids a real childhood while still preparing them for 21st century life.
  • You and your kids will have a close, loving relationship for the rest of your life.

Parenting is tough, but it isn't complicated. Give yourself the support you deserve, with Dr. Laura's free coaching emails or her book, Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting.


Does this kind of parenting work?
Hear what parents have to say!

"Yours is the best advice I've found so far on what to do when you, the parent, are angry. Most say something like, "Deal positively with your anger!" which makes me say, "Like HOW?""

"My strong-willed three year old almost never has a tantrum any more...he tells me what’s upsetting him and works to find a solution we can both live with. Thank you for all the wonderful information you make available for free on the Aha! Parenting website...
You’ve saved my sanity!"


Welcome to the work of parenting.
Of course, that’s where the rewards are, too.



Yes. It works. And the more rest i get, the more patience I have. It makes a difference.


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