"Don’t look at it as exercise — instead, play games and have a ton of fun! The main thing is just to get outside every day and do something you think is fun. You can play sports like soccer, basketball, or badminton. You can play games like freeze tag or ride a bike or do running races with your friends or family. You can go on hikes with your family or go swimming or paddling. Do lots of different things, and again, focus on having fun, and doing it often.” – Leo Babauta
You're a parent, so you don’t have time to exercise, right? I can relate.
But moving our bodies is a basic part of self-care. We can't talk about nurturing
ourselves without figuring out a way to get physical.
We all feel a lot more energetic when we move and stretch. It changes the
chemistry of our bodies so we're happier, more relaxed, and we burn more fat.
We not only look better, we feel better -- and so we "act" better as parents. Exercise
is the best stress reducer there is, after deep breathing and getting enough sleep.
What more incentive do you need?
If you can motivate yourself to go out running, or to the gym, and you can leave
the kids with your partner or trade off with a friend, you’ve got it covered.
But if you’re like the rest of us, you need to find fun ways to be active while
you're WITH your children. Luckily, you have children to be active with,
so you have a head start!
Kids love it when you play physically with them. It’s a terrific way to
add some connection and fun back into a relationship that too often deteriorates
into correction and conflict. You don't need to tell your kids this exercising
is for you -- they'll assume it's special family time! And if your child is spending
too much time staring at screens, this is the best way to get her up and moving.
The secret is setting aside the time. Even ten minutes a day outside together
is a great start during the week. On the weekend, you can plan an outing.
Before you know it, you'll have worked up to 20 minutes daily, with an hour on
weekend days. Sure, you'll skip some days. But if that's more exercise
than you're getting now, read on.
Simply put your "Let's Get Physical" time on the calendar. Then, choose a fun
activity that requires physical exertion. When you find something you love doing,
do more of it. Soon you’ll have a whole repertoire of family physical activity
that makes you happy.
- Put on music and dance with your family.
- Use your little one as a football, run her around the rest of the family into
the end zone. Your kids will love it.
- Take a soccer ball outside and take turns chasing each other as you dribble the
ball. Kids love the soccer practice.
- Play dance revolution, tag, or frisbee with your children.
- Join your kids on the monkey bars. Great upper body workout! Who cares what the
other parents think?
- When you're confined to the house, play "Take off each others' socks," wrestling,
or chase games. (If your kids are laughing, that's a huge bonus, because you're
helping them evaporate any anxieties they're carrying around.
- Keep any bubble wrap that comes your way in a bag at the back of your closet.
On a rainy day, pull it out for a Bubble-Wrap dance party!
- Get work-out DVDs from the library, or watch on YouTube, and exercise with your
- Load the kids into the car and drive to the track at your local high school in
the evening or on the weekend when it’s empty. Let the kids ride their trikes
or bikes around the track, while you walk or jog.
- Join the local Y or pool so you can swim all year. Just put floaties or other
floatation wear on your child, hold him in one arm on your hip, and swim with the
other arm for a terrific workout.
- “Baby & Me” yoga classes
- Put your favorite podcasts on your Ipod and go for a walk with your little one
in a carrier or stroller.
- Let your exercise time double as social time by walking with a friend and her
child; the kids will entertain each other.
- If your child is old enough, bike or roller blade together.
- Chasing your toddler all over the playground? Get a pedometer, and work
up to 10,000 steps a day.
When you're working:
- Walk or bike to work (If it takes an extra 15 minutes each way, that's a small
price to pay for so much exercise.)
- Use the stairs instead of the elevator at work.
- Walk around your office while you're on the phone. Use a pedometer and keep trying
to increase your daily steps.
You won't believe how much ten minutes of movement daily will lift your mood.
And when we feel good, it has an almost magical effect on our children. We have
a lighter touch, and a sense of humor. We don't get triggered as easily.
All of which makes our kids happier and more cooperative.
You're also getting your child hooked on an active lifestyle, which is a great
counter-balance to all that screen-time in our lives. Kids who are physically
active into the preteen and teen years are 75% less likely to be overweight when
If you do this every single day, you'll all start looking forward to it. Way to
nurture yourself and your child at the same time!
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