About Aha! Parenting

Dr. Laura Markham founded Aha! Parenting to support YOU to create a more peaceful home -- and happy, responsible, considerate kids!

Are you looking for that Aha! Moment to transform your child’s behavior, or maybe your own?

Whether you’re wondering how to handle a specific challenge, just figuring out your child-raising approach, or ready to tear your hair out, you’ve come to the right place.

What is Aha! Parenting?

You know what an Aha! Moment is, right?

With our child, it’s that lightning flash of insight, when suddenly we see things from another perspective, and everything has the potential to be different. This website has Aha! moments for parents of every age child, from pregnancy right through the teen years.

  • Do you want your child to WANT to cooperate, without yelling, bribes, threats or punishment?
  • Would you like to connect more with your child to build a stronger, sweeter bond instead of struggling for control?
  • Do you want to raise kids who grow up into happy, considerate, responsible, competent people?
  • Do you consider yourself to be using some or all of the practices of “attachment” parenting, and want an experienced resource to consult about the challenges that emerge with each stage?
  • Do you want to know how to raise a 21st century kid using eternal values?
  • Do you want to feel more inspired and confident as a parent?

You've come to the right place!

About Dr. Laura Markham

Dr. Laura Markham creates Aha! moments for parents of kids from babies through teens. She trained as a Clinical Psychologist at Columbia University, but she's also a mom, so she understands kids -- and parents! And she translates proven science into the practical solutions you need for the family life you want.

Dr. Laura Markham is the author of three best-selling books: 

The founding editor of AhaParenting.com, Dr. Laura Markham also serves as a parenting expert for many websites. She makes frequent TV and radio appearances and has been interviewed for thousands of articles by publications as diverse as The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Real Simple, Newsday, Men's Health, Redbook and Parents Magazine. Over 140,000 parents subscribe to her weekly email.

Dr. Laura Markham's relationship-based parenting model, which she calls Peaceful Parenting, has helped thousands of families across the U.S. and Canada find compassionate, common-sense solutions to everything from separation anxiety and sleep problems to sass talk and cell phones. She lives in Brooklyn, New York and is the proud parent of two terrific young adults who were raised with Peaceful Parenting. 

Three simple, big ideas:


Regulating Our Emotions as Parents

Our most important responsibility as parents is regulating our own emotions, which is essential for our children to learn to manage themselves. That’s why Dr. Laura Markham’s free coaching emails often focus on how to take better care of ourselves.


Connecting with Your Child

From tantrums to texting, the secret of happy parenting is a close relationship with your child. Without that connection, we have little influence (”My kids won’t listen!”) and parenting becomes exhausting.


Coach Instead of Controlling

Coach, instead of trying to control, so your child WANTS to cooperate with you. Sure, you need to set limits--but if you set them with empathy and respect, you’ll find your child is much more likely to comply.

What Are The Benefits?

  • Your kids will be happier, more cooperative , and well-adjusted -- a joy to parent, most of the time.
  • You'll be happier and more relaxed.
  • Your family life will be more meaningful and fun. Connecting puts the sweetness back into parenting.
  • You'll raise ethical, emotionally intelligent kids who are happy, considerate, self-disciplined, responsible, and likable -- without ever having to punish!
  • You'll give your kids a real childhood while still preparing them for 21st century life.
  • You and your kids will have a close, loving relationship for the rest of your life.

Parenting is tough, but it isn't complicated. Give yourself the support you deserve, to be the parent you want to be!


Does this kind of parenting work?
Hear what parents have to say!

"Yours is the best advice I've found so far on what to do when you, the parent, are angry. Most say something like, "Deal positively with your anger!" which makes me say, "Like HOW?""

"My strong-willed three year old almost never has a tantrum any more...he tells me what’s upsetting him and works to find a solution we can both live with. Thank you for all the wonderful information you make available for free on the Aha! Parenting website...
You’ve saved my sanity!"


Welcome to the work of parenting.
Of course, that’s where the rewards are, too.



"I’d really recommend Laura Markham’s Aha! parenting books and website for brilliantly practical ways to parent with kindness instead of punishment." - Makchoon


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